One would think that a person who is always being approached by the opposite gender would have an ironclad self-esteem and a pickup game worked out to perfection, right? This is rarely the case, however, and there is a good reason why the most desired people freeze when they should make their move…

If you are an attractive, smart, and talented person, who gets a lot of sexual and romantic offers from other people, you are likely to be very aware of the fact that some people completely lack the ability to assess their own level of attractiveness in relation to you. This creates the situation, that you are MORE THAN USED TO politely knocking back offers left, right, and centre, and that you are also used to being approached, but not quite as used to approach others – after all, the people you are really impressed by are few, far, and between. When you come face to face with someone who is actually equal to you, you have no idea how to make a connection, right?

What happens, is that you are both careful not to make a move before the other one gives green light. Because you’re both cautious, you both are likely to interpret this respectful hesitation as disinterest, even if you can sense that they are interested, you are likely to talk yourself out of boldly approaching them (or sealing the deal, so to speak) because you are uncertain about what their hesitation means – someone that attractive, you figure, wouldn’t be interested in you, necessarily – possibly, but not so certainly that you should be bold about your actions…

The fix is easy… ish. You simply have to be aware of this and start trusting your instincts more, and remind yourself that your hesitation can be interpreted in more than one ways. Just imagine if they are really interested in you, how would they feel like if you don’t really approach them anymore? Would you feel rejected if you were treated the way you are now treating them?

Remember that sometimes being near the person who you truly love is better than you dare to hope for… And if someone is constantly near by, the chances are that they do not exactly hate you. 🙂

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